Episodes
June 25, 2025
We Broke All Our Lifestyle Rules
When we first got into swinging, we had our rules locked in: couples only, same room only, always together. That lasted… maybe two encounters. In this episode, we share how our rules and boundaries evolved over 22 years in th...
June 18, 2025
How Swinging Made Our Marriage Bulletproof
A lot of couples may try swinging once or for a short period of time. So what made us keep going—and keep growing— for 22 years ? In this episode, we share the real reasons we stayed in the lifestyle, from the electric excite...
June 12, 2025
How to Crash and Burn in the Lifestyle
In today’s episode, we’re diving into the wrong reasons to get into the lifestyle. We’ll share: Why swinging is not therapy A story about a female half of a couple who got pushed into it before she was ready How manipulation,...
June 5, 2025
Everyone Else Is Just a Toy—Here’s Why
In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the differences between swinging, polyamory, open relationships, and everything in between. We’ll talk about: Why we’re not poly, and never will be The show Polyfamily and the emotional...
May 29, 2025
Their First Time, Our Shared High
In today’s episode, we’re sharing a real story from a night at our local club. We met a couple who seemed like seasoned pros—but they were holding onto a fantasy that had never actually happened… until that night. We’ll walk ...
May 22, 2025
Vic Nearly Puked. Dave Dove Right In. Our 1st Time
In this episode, we’re going back to our first time . We’ll tell you: How Vic shocked Dave by signing up for an AFF account The couple we met from the next town over What really went down that night in our house And how we bo...
May 15, 2025
Swinging Didn’t Fix Us—It Freed Us
In this episode, we’re getting real about how we got into the lifestyle. We weren’t struggling. We weren’t bored. Our sex life was already damn good—maybe too good. We’ll talk about: How curiosity evolved from Real Sex on HBO...
May 8, 2025
Messies, Mentors, and Muthafukkin’ OGs
In this episode, we’re kicking things off by sharing why we’re finally stepping up to the mic after 22 years in the lifestyle. We’ll talk about: The couple that mentored us early on and showed us how to actually last in non-m...
May 3, 2025
Welcome to Comin' Out Swinging!
Comin' Out Swinging isn't just about non-monogamy. It’s a raw, real look at modern relationships. We’re Victoria and Dave Arena: together nearly 30 years, married over 24, and swinging for more than 22. This show explores how...