Welcome to Comin’ Out Swinging — a raw, real look at modern relationships.
We are Victoria and Dave Arena. We’ve been together nearly 30 years, married over 24, and swinging for more than 22.
We’re starting this podcast now because, for too long, fear kept us from living authentically—from being open about who we are and what our relationship actually looks like.
Maybe this is our modern-day Scarlet Letter.
But this show isn’t just about swinging or even sex. It asks three big questions:
➤ What’s broken in today’s relationships?
➤ Is monogamy even natural for humans?
➤ And why does fear keep so many people from expressing what they truly desire?
Infidelity and lack of intimacy are the top reasons for divorce—and those are the lucky ones who actually escape. What about all the miserable zombies who stay stuck until they die?
The couples who don’t even talk anymore, let alone fuck.
The ones curating perfect lives for Instagram, while behind closed doors, she’s sleeping in their kid’s race car bed... and he’s secretly jerking off to OnlyFans.
Seriously—what are we even doing in relationships?
This show digs into how love, sex, and identity often buckle under the weight of societal expectations—especially monogamy.
But at its core, it’s about fear—fear of judgment, shame and rejection—
Why are so many people terrified to say what they really want—in bed and in life? Why do we silence the parts of us that crave more?
Because we’ve been taught that wanting more makes you broken, selfish, or wrong.
We’ve questioned it, We’ve lived it, and now—we’re talking about it.
These are our stories.
Subscribe to Comin’ Out Swinging—the podcast that truly redefines “Couple Goals,” straight from the Muthaphuckkin OGs.
