Comin' Out Swinging

Comin' Out Swinging isn't just about non-monogamy. It’s a raw, real look at modern relationships. We’re Victoria and Dave Arena: together nearly 30 years, married over 24, and swinging for more than 22. This show explores how love, sex, and identity often buckle under the weight of societal expectations, especially monogamy. Subscribe to Comin’ Out Swinging—the podcast that truly redefines "Couple Goals," straight from the Muthaphuckkin OGs.

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Comin' Out Swinging

Comin' Out Swinging isn't just about non-monogamy. It’s a raw, real look at modern relationships. This show explores how love, sex, and identity often buckle under the weight of societal expectations. Redefine "Couple Goals," straight from the Muthaphuckkin OGs.

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Sept. 18, 2025

Spice Without the Swap

Think the only way to heat things up is to swap partners? Not even close. In this episode, Vic and I break down all the hot, non-monogamy-adjacent fun—voyeurism, exhibitionism, and same-room play—that keeps the spice alive without ever crossing into full swap.

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Sept. 11, 2025

From Overlooked to Overbooked in the Lifestyle

We spent our teens in the friend zone—good enough to listen to everyone’s drama, never the ones they wanted. In this episode, Vic and I unpack how that shaped us, how those voices still live in our heads, and what it feels like to flip the script in the lifestyle.

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Sept. 4, 2025

The Truth About Performance Enhancers

In this episode, we discuss the realities of performance enhancers in the lifestyle. We address common misconceptions about erectile dysfunction, the impact of environment on performance, and the importance of communication between partners. The discussion also covers the use of medication to enhance experiences and the emotional aspects of intimacy when things don't go as planned. Key Takeaways: Performance enhancers are not just for men; they can benefit couples. The 'puppy reaction' describes

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Aug. 28, 2025

From Fun To Felony: Lifestyle Rules You Shouldn't Break

In today’s episode, we’re giving you a crash course in lifestyle club and event survival. From awkward ‘cash-for-play’ offers to phones popping up in places they shouldn’t—let’s talk security, safety, and how not to wreck the vibe (or go to jail).

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Aug. 21, 2025

Shut the F*ck Up!

We love that you’re excited to be at the sex club. We really do. But if you're in the play area talking about your colonoscopy or your kids’ soccer schedule while people are trying to fuck— you’re doing it wrong. In this episode, we tackle one of the biggest vibe-killers at lifestyle clubs: loud-ass people treating the play area like it’s happy hour at Chili’s. From awkward overshares to unsolicited porn-director commentary, we’ve seen—and heard —it all. This episode is a love letter from your f

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July 24, 2025

Out of Your League? Not in the Lifestyle

Think you’re not hot enough for the lifestyle? Too average? Too old? Not what you think people are looking for? Think again. In this episode, we unpack how swinging isn't about being the hottest person in the room—it’s about how you show up. Confidence, vibe, and how you make people feel will get you further than abs or a perfect ass ever will. We will talk about the simple things most people overlook—like grooming, hygiene, and not acting like a weirdo—and share personal stories of pulling peop

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About the Host

Victoria & Dave Arena

We are a married, LA-based writing team known for brazen comedies inspired by our “WTF are Vic n Dave doing now?” life choices.

Our half-hour TV script Comin’ Out Swinging, currently in development, sparked the podcast of the same name — a raw, real exploration of our 20+ years navigating the swinger lifestyle.

With authenticity, heart, and a fearless voice, we create characters who, like us, live unconventionally and unapologetically. Together, we keep pushing boundaries — proving that life (and comedy) are better lived outside the lines.