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Comin' Out Swinging

Comin' Out Swinging isn't just about non-monogamy. It’s a raw, real look at modern relationships. We’re Victoria and Dave Arena: together nearly 30 years, married over 24, and swinging for more than 22. This show explores how love, sex, and identity often buckle under the weight of societal expectations, especially monogamy. Subscribe to Comin’ Out Swinging—the podcast that truly redefines "Couple Goals," straight from the Muthaphuckkin OGs.

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Comin' Out Swinging

Comin' Out Swinging isn't just about non-monogamy. It’s a raw, real look at modern relationships. This show explores how love, sex, and identity often buckle under the weight of societal expectations. Redefine "Couple Goals," straight from the Muthaphuckkin OGs.

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June 25, 2025

We Broke All Our Lifestyle Rules

When we first got into swinging, we had our rules locked in: couples only, same room only, always together. That lasted… maybe two encounters. In this episode, we share how our rules and boundaries evolved over 22 years in th...

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June 18, 2025

How Swinging Made Our Marriage Bulletproof

A lot of couples may try swinging once or for a short period of time. So what made us keep going—and keep growing— for 22 years ? In this episode, we share the real reasons we stayed in the lifestyle, from the electric excite...

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June 12, 2025

How to Crash and Burn in the Lifestyle

In today’s episode, we’re diving into the wrong reasons to get into the lifestyle. We’ll share: Why swinging is not therapy A story about a female half of a couple who got pushed into it before she was ready How manipulation,...

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June 5, 2025

Everyone Else Is Just a Toy—Here’s Why

In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the differences between swinging, polyamory, open relationships, and everything in between. We’ll talk about: Why we’re not poly, and never will be The show Polyfamily and the emotional...

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May 29, 2025

Their First Time, Our Shared High

In today’s episode, we’re sharing a real story from a night at our local club. We met a couple who seemed like seasoned pros—but they were holding onto a fantasy that had never actually happened… until that night. We’ll walk ...

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May 22, 2025

Vic Nearly Puked. Dave Dove Right In. Our 1st Time

In this episode, we’re going back to our first time . We’ll tell you: How Vic shocked Dave by signing up for an AFF account The couple we met from the next town over What really went down that night in our house And how we bo...

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About the Host

Victoria & Dave Arena

We are a married, LA-based writing team known for brazen comedies inspired by our “WTF are Vic n Dave doing now?” life choices.

Our half-hour TV script Comin’ Out Swinging, currently in development, sparked the podcast of the same name — a raw, real exploration of our 20+ years navigating the swinger lifestyle.

With authenticity, heart, and a fearless voice, we create characters who, like us, live unconventionally and unapologetically. Together, we keep pushing boundaries — proving that life (and comedy) are better lived outside the lines.